Joy in parenting is not a constant state but a recoverable ability that depends on relational, psychological, and environmental conditions.

At some point—often in your forties or fifties—you might find yourself doing something ordinary, like folding laundry or waiting in the school pickup line, when a quiet question bubbles up:

Who am I now?

When grief enters the picture, it can feel like the balance of love, patience, and resilience is impossible to maintain. As parents, we’re tasked with navigating our own heartbreak while staying emotionally available for our children—a challenge that can be overwhelming and deeply isolating.  Yet, even in the midst of sorrow, there are ways to support yourself and your family.